It's been calm here, and I love it. It is going to be quiet here for a reason. I had taken a break, and while I am training now, there are no adventures on a horizon to speak of. No awesome pictures to post, no mountains to "wow" at, no views to salivate, no hardships of trail ultra running to describe. But life doesn't "sell" the blog anymore. Everybody gets bored unless there is Tony K. shirtless in high country, or a new record to discuss. I got neither. Just plain ol' me, my boys, and hot and humid Central Texas.
Apparently, for the most part I only have runners friends. While it's not that my running buddies are not wonderful, it does make me stop and think: is running all I am? Or am I more? Is that all you are? And why are we not talking about other sides of our persona's? Aren't we friends?
My return to Facebook was pretty odd - I see now why I left it for over 3 years. Yes, it is absolutely a great tool to keep up with all your friends quick and simultaneously, and I enjoyed catching up. Engagements, weddings, traveling. But as before, I find I spend time looking at updates not productive at all. Yet it has its pull. At least I didn't fall into racking up the number of "friends" I have. Gotta be real here.
Identity. I am about to turn 43, and there is gotta be more to me than being good at making through a mountain 100M race. I can do more things, and talk about books, and know a thing or few. But it almost looks like I got no-one to share it with. I am sad. Where do you meet people if all you do is go to work, cook for family, and train/run? What am I doing wrong?
I am trying to step aside. I am training hard, daily, and have goals. But I am bored talking about it. I don't think anyone would like to hear about another treadmill workout that was tough, but felt better than the previous one? How I got humbled at a local 5k race, first in about 9 years? God, I thought I was about to die! Had to lie down on a bench after finish and got scared I would faint.
We do things we are comfortable with. As human being, at some point, as we get older, challenging ourselves gets really rare. We get in a rut. (And if you believe running another 50 miler is a challenge, look the truth into its eyes. It only is when it's your first. Then it's a familiar territory).
Anyhow, I know a person or few who inspire me to occasionally venture from the comfort zone. Thank you. I'll keep my eyes focused on you.
I'll keep my eyes focused on me. My family. My life.
I volunteered at a Tejas Trails night race. You know, the usual, serving, figuring problems, yelling to go on and finish...so many new folks came to sport, crazy, and it's Texas! Exploding of trail running is good that it gets folks off their butts. But I hope that new generation will not be complacent with simply staying where they are.
Complacency is like a slow death. If you're not moving forward, you're been pulled back - the Earth rotates, don't fall off!
Challenges. We have so many of those often when we don't ask for them. Getting laid off work when you're past your hiring prime is scary. Working on a new marriage. Raising kids - holly cow, this is nuts! Where are their brains? Why is it every year kids as a mass get so eager to just float by and yet ask for more in return from life? Entitlement. Generation of "everybody gets a trophy".
Nope. Even in our beloved trail ultrarunning, there is a timing clock, and the order of finishers. Strive. Even if just against yourself.
Somehow, despite the raffles that the ocean of life sends, and even storms rolling quite often, I am in a good head space.
I think I am growing up.
It's a little unnerving. But it's about time.
Apparently, for the most part I only have runners friends. While it's not that my running buddies are not wonderful, it does make me stop and think: is running all I am? Or am I more? Is that all you are? And why are we not talking about other sides of our persona's? Aren't we friends?
My return to Facebook was pretty odd - I see now why I left it for over 3 years. Yes, it is absolutely a great tool to keep up with all your friends quick and simultaneously, and I enjoyed catching up. Engagements, weddings, traveling. But as before, I find I spend time looking at updates not productive at all. Yet it has its pull. At least I didn't fall into racking up the number of "friends" I have. Gotta be real here.
Identity. I am about to turn 43, and there is gotta be more to me than being good at making through a mountain 100M race. I can do more things, and talk about books, and know a thing or few. But it almost looks like I got no-one to share it with. I am sad. Where do you meet people if all you do is go to work, cook for family, and train/run? What am I doing wrong?
I am trying to step aside. I am training hard, daily, and have goals. But I am bored talking about it. I don't think anyone would like to hear about another treadmill workout that was tough, but felt better than the previous one? How I got humbled at a local 5k race, first in about 9 years? God, I thought I was about to die! Had to lie down on a bench after finish and got scared I would faint.
We do things we are comfortable with. As human being, at some point, as we get older, challenging ourselves gets really rare. We get in a rut. (And if you believe running another 50 miler is a challenge, look the truth into its eyes. It only is when it's your first. Then it's a familiar territory).
Anyhow, I know a person or few who inspire me to occasionally venture from the comfort zone. Thank you. I'll keep my eyes focused on you.
I'll keep my eyes focused on me. My family. My life.
I volunteered at a Tejas Trails night race. You know, the usual, serving, figuring problems, yelling to go on and finish...so many new folks came to sport, crazy, and it's Texas! Exploding of trail running is good that it gets folks off their butts. But I hope that new generation will not be complacent with simply staying where they are.
Complacency is like a slow death. If you're not moving forward, you're been pulled back - the Earth rotates, don't fall off!
Challenges. We have so many of those often when we don't ask for them. Getting laid off work when you're past your hiring prime is scary. Working on a new marriage. Raising kids - holly cow, this is nuts! Where are their brains? Why is it every year kids as a mass get so eager to just float by and yet ask for more in return from life? Entitlement. Generation of "everybody gets a trophy".
Nope. Even in our beloved trail ultrarunning, there is a timing clock, and the order of finishers. Strive. Even if just against yourself.
Somehow, despite the raffles that the ocean of life sends, and even storms rolling quite often, I am in a good head space.
I think I am growing up.
It's a little unnerving. But it's about time.
Training and Fun-Running: Why Are They Viewed Separately?
I call it “Generation Born to Run”. You know, McDougal’s book about drunken Jenn Shelton, a bunch of Indians in Mexico playing ball while running, bare footing and just having plain ol’ fun. At any age, sounds so awesome in our old age when job and family responsibilities are weighing so heavily on our shoulders. It, also, spurred the second biggest wave in American history of running a-mass, and, this time, it is trail running.
First wave? Dean Karnazes’ Ultramarathon Man. You know, the idea of suddenly popping out a 30 mile run out of the blue and then continuing with those while ordering pizza delivery (and devouring it!) during a night run.
Don’t take me wrong, I am all for getting as many folks off their butts stuck on couches, as possible. After all, there was Oprah’s book before that, and whatever else I had managed to miss. Regular folks showing other regular folks that it can be done.
However, a lot stems to an apparent shift in society that things shall be easy for us. Or, that, at least, because we work hard at our day-jobs, we should just roam free while at our hobby–no effort required to be put in.
The only thing is, we also expect results. Whether it’s getting better from race to race, improving times, extending distance, placing, finally not being a DNF – doesn’t matter. Staying in the same place where we started makes us feel a little awkward…and then we look for excuses, before even realizing it.
“I am in it just for fun.”
“I simply want a stress relief.”
“I like plodding mindlessly.”
I’ve said them all. Used them often, too. Admittedly, I always knew that when I did (and do) – it’s because I am not willing to put in an effort. Becoming scared of the outcome, whether negative, or positive. My mind is somewhere else, and the focus is on things, by far, more important than just doing 400 meter repeats on the track at God-damned early hour in 80 degree weather magnified by 90% humidity.
Yes, at least I am honest with myself.
We rave on articles and blog posts where we see gorgeous pictures of mountains (and half-naked gals and guys roaming on top of them), and we “like” and comment on those that allude that those runs, as well as, great races, just “happen”. We stay much quieter when other folks post what workouts they did, about how bad it felt, how hard it was to get out (yet they did), complaining about how the legs weren’t moving, the lungs weren’t breathing, and the gagging reflex was preventing proper hydration. Yet, those 400s, or 800s, or mile-long hill repeats got done. And, we feel oddly almost mad, and puff the chest up, and say, “Good for ya, but I am here for the fun of it.”
When did training hard become a synonym of not having fun, by definition?
When did it become that those who choose not to commit to traditional views on training for any event of any length or surface are better people in general and runners in particular than those who do?
Has this trend come from the idea that trail runners (and barefoot runners) are closer to nature and therefore understand nature better and need not to do anything beyond splashing in grass or dirt with joy, and that makes them superior?
Every time someone says, “And now I’ll train for a marathon”, a line of “OMG, why would you wanna do THAT?” follows.
That makes me sad…
Where I came from, hard work is what was admired. Whether in work or fun. A hobby is, also, something you’d probably want to do well and excel at, no? I would. And, when I apply the ethic of work to a hobby, be it running or knitting, it carries to all the other aspects of my life, as well. It gives me consistency, pride, and self-confidence to deal with whatever is thrown at me. No hiding allowed.
The truth is, training hard IS fun. It is never easy for anyone, from the next-door neighbor to an Olympic athlete, to wake up and drag the body to whatever it is that needs to be exercised.
Squint the eyes, focus the mind, push.
Every single day is a battle. But, as I go through, in a few minutes, a feeling of a warrior rises. I can do it! Nothing better than that. Taking myself far outside the comfort zone is what I strive for.
Not settling in.
Not being comfortable.
Reach.
And, then, there are days when I plod, literally. Easing my mind into a space where it’s empty at first, having thoughts flood, chewing on them. Then, they become just by-passers without my direction. Come and go! Left foot, right foot. Run, walk – dictated by the terrain and a breath. Easy–well deserved easy. No guilt easy. No reason to explain to anyone “It’s my hobby!” easy. Just float, however long it takes…
I guess, what I am trying to say is that nothing in life ever comes easy, but that doesn’t sell. We teach our children that everybody “gets a trophy”, and participation is the key. It is. But, all of us will not be a winner. We don’t have to be. That last one – he or she toed the starting line and made it through. Worked hard. Overcame insecurities and obstacles. Pushed on.
Not everyone has to train hard. And that is great, really! There are a lot of people who need to be just playing. But, what I am asking is, when you come across someone who finds fun in something other, maybe even hard training – don’t label them “no fun”, because maybe, just maybe, they are having the time of their lives!
At the end of the day, you can stand in front of the mirror, look yourself straight into the eyes and say “I gave it all I had today” – that was a good day.
– Olga King
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Posted on 08 Aug 2012
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3 Responses to “Training and Fun-Running: Why Are They Viewed Separately?”
- on 09 Aug 2012 at 10:08 am 1Chris R.Great article Olga! I can really relate. I often utilize the “I’m just doing this for fun” etc. to justify a poor race or a crappy training run or subbing an easy workout for a hard workout. Thanks for the thoughts!
- on 10 Aug 2012 at 5:28 am 2olgaChris, you know I’ll be at your service yelling comes late October! Looking forward seeing all of the sufferers again:)
- on 23 Aug 2012 at 12:17 pm 3LaronI like it! Great article hitting American culture on the head. And I know that I suffer from that disease as well: things have gotta come easy or I’ll complain. But, I especially liked the point that what we often see and read is the end-the result-of much sustained, concentrated effort.Last night, as I was doing intervals, the thought crept into my head to take it easy. Then, something my dad said popped into my mind, “If it was easy, everybody would do it.” It kept me going hard. It wasn’t easy but it was fun.Yet, there is a balance here, too. Because working too hard can and does in fact occur, esp. when it comes to long distance running. It’s worse mentally and physically to push too hard and sustain an injury than it is to take an easy day, in my opinion. Although, if we’re careful, we can learn a lot from such injuries. Anyways, what I’m getting at is that it’s a difficult balance between working hard and too hard, and even not exerting enough effort.Olga, well written! Thanks for the thought provoking article. And may we continue to view hard work as fun!
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Olga, I swear I thought you were reading directly from my heart. I could not have worded things better myself. I've decided after I come back from the honneymoon, which in itself is different, I'm going to take a class. A cooking class, an art class, something to help me identify with more in my life. Good luck, I know it is hard, but you are one tough cookie with massive amounts of tenacity.
Alison, I plan on taking a class or few as well! Cooking and Spanish are the must to start. Once I get through the final year of my younger son's idiocy of teen and high school, I am all over being out of the house! Right now I am just doing little things on my own. And my and Larry's last retreat was simply doing nothing - pool, good food, TV and some gym and easy running along the beach. It was great, for all the two days! :)
Kind of ironic when your comfort zone is running 50 and 100 milers, and you need to take a cooking class to try something challenging. ;) Clearly complacency will never be your problem, so don't worry! Also, I find that while I have non-running friends, I tend to enjoy my running friends the most. Not because we're runners, but because that time spent running together is when we connect and share the most. So much more real than other activities - running puts me in a space where I will be more vulnerable and honest with people.
Great post, Olga!
Your blog is now one of the few blogs I check in on every once in a while. I am done with the whole scene. My wife was recently talking about how sad it is that we have friends that never talk about anything but running. She even deleted a few of them from her FB account. She likes the people but is sick of their hourly updates and pictures of their running. It is just freaking running! There is so much more to life. Anyways I like how you keep it real.
adios
-Hone
I've wondered before why I gravitate to, and open up so much more to my running friends. Your comment summed it all up for me quite nicely, Gretchen. :)
I agree that while on a long run in a wild place, we get more raw and honest and open up. For sure. That's why we tend to become better friends, because we know each other inside. But, does it mean we can only discuss running? And can we find a way to open up with other people, and help them do the same? And what happens when we can't run anymore, for whatever reason, or even hike? This is what makes me think all that...
I get kinda scared when I hear myself (and my hubby) talk about only running when at the dinner table with kids. Sometimes I feel they hate us for that. I make an effort to shorten it every time and try for other topics, but get dumbfounded when find few if any. This is S.O.S.
I think it's worthy to note that nobody's ditching running, or talking about running. Just doing things other than that in addition, and chatting those:)
And p.s. - if you ask those few non-running friends I do have, I am open and honest there. Give me some time, I won't stop deep conversation. I call it "I am incapable of small talk about weather".
разговор по душам and not пустой, right???
Onegin was assessed by many
(critical judges, strict as any)
as well-read, though of pedant cast.
Unforced, as conversation passed,
he had the talent of saluting
felicitously every theme,
of listening like a judge-supreme
while serious topics were disputing,
or, with an epigram-surprise,
of kindling smiles in ladies' eyes.
-A. Pushkin
Beautifully put Olga. You are an inspiration to me on the trail and off. Keep being yourself! And I'd love to hear what you are reading. just bought an Anne Beatie book. Love lazy Summer days. Hugs friend, Sheri.
I like where you are going with your thoughts....life is more than running and running friends. Deb and I are learning this a lot now post Hardrock and Speedgoat and now two young grand daughters visiting for 1.5 weeks. Who has time to run? ;-)
I found where you got it from: http://blog.properrussian.com/2011/02/small-talk-not-in-russian.html
"A conversation in Russian culture is more than just a casual talk, this is a mutual involvement into the process of information and emotional exchange. Any communication has to be meaningful, but it doesn't have to mean “full of words”. You can keep silence and still enjoy the conversation." The example is of Onegin as a very superficial person, without putting deep thought or emotions in anything he says, and listening lightly if at all.
If anybody ever cares, here is full text: http://lib.ru/LITRA/PUSHKIN/ENGLISH/onegin_j.txt
I think you are fascinating no matter what you want to talk about.
Ditto:)
It is hard to make routine running sound exciting, isn't it? And, I agree, there is a lot more to talk about than running, but it's still nice to have friends that understand our hobby.
Hope to see you soon for another girls night out. Sushi....Mmmmm.
As is usually the case on this blog...a compelling and meaningful read.
Ron B
I will enjoy reading whatever you want to write about. :-)
Just recently I unsubscribed to a ton a running blogs - you can only read so many race reports and they start sounding all the same. Or at least aren't relevant to me. I also found myself getting too caught up in "the sport of ultra running" and had to back off a little bit. Sure it's inspiring to follow record breaking runs at WSER....but it's so different from my own experience of ultrarunning that I was losing sight of myself and my own goals/aspirations. Hard to explain.
Ebbs and flows...I know I'm already looking forward to focusing on other pursuits too once this "season' is over.
Thank you again for another thought-provoking post - whether you meant it that way or not. :-)
Glad you're back - I missed you! I know what you mean, my life definitely revolves around family, work and running. But for now, I guess that's okay. At some point, I won't have kids at home and probably won't really be able to run much, so I think the tunnel vision is okay for me for now. Not for always, but for this moment. I'm 44 and we are at the crossover period, so I completely felt your post - as always.
Wow, very timely. When Benjamin was born last September we were all of a sudden like-where did all our friends go? Oh, that is right, they are RUNNING friends. Not the type to come over and just hang out with you talking while you hold your baby or just hang...Running friends are the best but I also am in need of those friends who aren't gone every weekend for some huge race or long run. I get the feeling if I stopped running, 90% of my friends would slowly disappear...
I have very few friends who are runners/ultrarunners. While I get to talk running all day (at the store I work), I wish I had more of that in my social life. Instead, I go to a party, mention a 50 miler, and people look at me like I'm crazy. Then, someone says, "I'm training for a marathon! It's a 5k mud run." Marathon does not =5k. But... I am thankful these friends keep me grounded. Thanks for a real, and honest post (as usual) :)
wow, this is THE most powerful running blog post I have ever read. And I know why. When I've got time, I'm coming back here. You may have just about got my head back on track. I feel as if I know you very well and we're thousands of miles apart.
Thank you
;~)
Great post Olga. I think seeming one-dimensional is a common human trait. When I rowed all my friends were rowers, when I climbed all my friends were climbers. And the sport was all we talked about. My cab driver on the way to the airport wanted to talk about production of vinyl records!! Choosing something different to do is good for a while but you will always gravitate towards your real passion. But as I have experienced, that passion can change with time. Keeping your passion fresh or moving along when it isn't is part of life's skill. And I think you have that skill in spades.
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